Thursday, October 12, 2006

Poor Ian

Weird title for a post, but that is because I am feeling overly guilty right now! We had a great time at the art show in Louisville and the kids had a blast with Pawpaw. On our last day there Caleb was complaining that his ear hurt. I figured he had another ear infection so decided to take him to the dr on Monday. Now Caleb had tubes placed in his ears when he was 11 months old and they have just recently fallen out (March 06). Well his ears started draining on Sunday which basically told me that he had a double ear infection. On monday we went to Bible study and about half way through they came and got me. He was crying and pretty upset. So I called and got an earlier apt and we headed to Vandy. The dr there told us that he had perfereated both eardrums and we started the strongest antibiotic and ear drops. Now I was already feeling bad because I just assumed that the holes were not quite healed from the tubes falling out. But to find out that I didn't notice that he had an ear infection till a few days ago made me feel terrible. Then Ian came down with a fever. That was the only symptom he had for 2 days. Then he started complaining about his ear and throat hurting. So off to the dr we go (again). Ian also has an ear infection and if he didn't have a perferated eardrum also. So now I feel like I am a terrible mom. I probably should have had them check Riley too, Although she seems to be fine. So as they are healing I am trying to cope with dropping the ball on my kids health. I can't think of a time I have not noticed little things that would indicate there was an issue. So if we suddenly become kidless, it is only because I have handed my kids over to the state since my mommy skills have gone down the drain!! ;)

6 comments:

Linda said...

You are a great mom, Marie. It's hard to decide when to take them to the doctor. We will pray the antibiotic can do its job and take care of the ears. In the meantime I'll pray for God to wrap you tightly in His arms and let you know that you are doing fine!

MartiMichelle said...

naw. you're a good mommy. they are all still alive aren't they? and odds are they will never rememebr all the ear infections they've had. so no biggi. they are drugged up now adn working tworads happy so it's all good in the hood!

Anonymous said...

The same thing happened to James' sister, Amanda, she didn't even know Reuben had an ear infection until his eardrum burst. Talk about mommy guilt! But, the DR said, DON'T FEEL GUILTY. She counldn't have known and in some children those things set it really fast. So don't worry. Hey, I once took Maggie in to the DR and she already had pneumonia! And then one other time we took her in for a cough and turned out she had a staph infection (completely unrelated to the cough). It happens to the best of us. Love you! Kimmie

Mallize said...

I don't normally post on blogs, but I'll make an exception on this one.

You are a wonderful wife and mother. Our kids are very blessed to have a mom who loves them and takes care of them as well as you do. The fact that our boys, and Riley, are bouncing all over the apartment laughing all of the time is a testament to that. It's obvious they are that happy and secure, they trust that you are taking good care of them, and you are.

As far as the ear infection... kids get sick. Ian didn't show anymore discomfort than if he had a cold. You can't run them to the doctor everytime they sneeze. He will be fine.

You are a blessing to me and to our children! Don't forget that God placed you as the mother of three wonderful children. He wouldn't have done that if he thought you were a 'bad mommy'.

P.S. I'm changing the title of this post...

Heather said...

Marie, You are a wonderful mom. I am blessed to have you to come to for advice and for an example. There is no way to know until they start complaining. Your kids are happy and most importantly learning about God. Keep up the good work. We love you and so do Caleb, Ian and Riley. As a matter of fact...they adore you!

The Bewleys said...

Your willingness to share your experience helped me greatly. Camille was acting funny this a.m. and tugging her ear. She said it hurt and I told her to stop tugging on it and it'll feel better. She's never had an ear infection b/f so I didn't think about it. I then read your blog this morning and started thinking about what she said. She proceeded to get worse, I took her temp, asked her about her ear (still hurt) then decided to take her to the dr. Well, she definitely has an infection and now has her antibiotics. You are definitely not a bad mother, and I appreciate you sharing your struggles b/c it ended up helping me identify an infection I might otherwise have overlooked!